WORKING WITH ME
My coaching approach is based on the recognition that our development as adults is associative and fluid rather than linear and fixed which means that under the right conditions, growth potential is boundless. I focus on reflecting you back to you in ways you've never seen yourself—illuminating hidden truths that both set you free and support the development of your most inspired, empowered self. We experiment to identify effective methods for your healing and growth while weaving you an evolved Web of Well-Being™. Whether you choose individual, couple, group, or a combination, the coaching process involves experiential learning to gently stretch you during sessions, in between, and beyond. Co-creating an inviting place for your truth to land allows you to explore with curiosity, gain clarity, and consciously cultivate your new reality.
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I'm not the kind of coach who focuses on weekly to-do lists in the physical realm while neglecting your internal development. For one, surface level behavioral shifts don't lead to sustained transformation and two, managing to-do lists is kinda boring...for both of us. My interdisciplinary coaching process focuses on strengthening your internal and relational resources as you integrate the knowledge you gain with powerful practices to nourish you and your relationships.
It's so exciting to witness you reconnect and replenish your true self.
Individual Coaching
We'll meet via Zoom in one-on-one sessions (60 or 90 minutes) and design a personalized process based on your strengths and needs as you develop:
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self-anchoring skills—bottom-up and top-down practices
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a deeper understanding of how you've been shaped, who you are at your core, and who you want to become
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embodied awareness with practices to connect to your healthy self
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polyvagal informed techniques to identify nervous system states, the sensations, emotions, and narratives of those states, along with how to navigate them
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practices to release tension and strengthen your relaxation response
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an understanding of thoughts, beliefs, internal conflicts, and adaptive behaviors that have been governing your behavior and experiences
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sensing, feeling, thinking, and behaving that enhances your well-being
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healthy emotional, mental, somatic, and intuitive responses to stressors
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knowledge of and communication with your inner guidance system
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an ever-evolving plan to achieve your personal, relational and professional goals
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an effective reflection process to expand awareness, knowledge, understanding, and effective adaptation
Couple Coaching
We may be wired to thrive in connection and love, yet if you weren’t taught how to cultivate and maintain connection, how to set and honor boundaries, how to identify the root of conflict and respond to it effectively, what authentic love is and isn’t—and that’s just for starters—is it any wonder you're challenged in your primary relationship?
The most effective way to increase the quality and pleasure in your relationships is to broaden your personal and relational knowledge and develop skills that support continued growth.
"Relationships flourish when the responsibility for nourishing the connection is
shared."
Here’s the good news:
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Relational intelligence skills are learnable.
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Your neurobiology supports your ability to learn and evolve throughout your life.
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The more you practice skills for healthy connection and healthy conflict, the more your relationships improve.
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Desire will pull you through the discomfort of change.
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Though the quality of your relationship requires shared responsibility for its growth, your personal growth is not dependent upon your partner’s.
We'll collaborate in 90 minute sessions via Zoom as you develop competencies in:
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thinking and behavior that fosters connection
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releasing thinking and behavior that leads to prolonged disconnection
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closing relational intelligence growth gaps between partners
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identifying growth goals for each partner and the relationship
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conditions and practices that support learning and authentic love
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resolving internal conflicts that hinder lasting development
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self-protection mode and connection mode—how to navigate both with maturity and efficacy
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self & co-soothing and regulation practices
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expanding your relational awareness
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how to dance with your differences rather than react to them
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root causes of relational conflicts
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skills to foster healthy conflict
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cultivating multiple pathways to intimacy
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anchoring in self while discovering other
Group Coaching
Group coaching sessions are designed to be an inviting sanctuary for storytelling, connection, laughter, joy, exploration, and discovery as each member grows within the warmth and encouragement of the group.
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Awaken your authentic self as you:
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share and receive the collective wisdom of a community whose members value curiosity, courage, compassion, and connection
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identify your dreams, desires, values, needs, and wants as well as the practices to effectively honor them
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become more fluent in the sensing, feeling, thinking, and behaving that connects you to ease, peace, and joy
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identify and revitalize the magical parts of you that you've been neglecting
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reconnect to your internal compass to develop clarity, self-trust, and direction
"We bloom within a felt sense of warm presence and connection."
Upcoming Group:
FROM SELF-ABANDONMENT TO SELF-HONORING: For women who've been shaped to abandon themselves and de-prioritize their wants and needs while attending to others and their relationships—giving from an empty cup. When you're feeling some combination of drained, discouraged, invisible, stuck, lost, unfulfilled, empty, emotionally lonely, and/or resentful and angry you might speak up from time to time. If nothing changes there's a good chance it's because your behavior isn't aligned with your words. Your words say, "This is unacceptable!" Your actions say, "I'll continue to accept the unacceptable." It's time to redirect your valuable resources (time, attention, energy, emotion) back to you and learn how to honor, nourish, and advocate for yourself effectively.
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When: ever other Wednesday at 5:00 PM PST/ 8:00 PM EST, starting Wednesday June 4th, 2025 through August 13th for six gatherings.
Where: we meet virtually on Zoom (75 minutes each session).
Why: to develop fulfilling relationships with yourself and others
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There are few experiences more magical than being part of a wise and compassionate circle of women.
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Release your self-abandoning adaptations and the beliefs that activate them. Reconnect with your heart, spirit, intuition to catalyze more meaning, joy, and fulfillment in your life. Within the warm presence of the group, express yourself authentically while receiving compassion, wisdom, and encouragement from the other women.
The Coaching Experience
“Jemma is by far the best coach I could have asked for. Beyond being wise, warm and supportive, she has a coaching style that's fun (I laughed a ton with her) and creative. She worked with me to bring forward my gifts while helping me discover areas where I could further develop in order to create what have felt like major miracles in my life. We designed assignments and practices that expanded my self-awareness and my skill set, both for my internal development and for achieving my external goals. My partnership with her had a huge impact on the way I rebound from setbacks and take action.”
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-Karin V.
" I was led to Jemma by a friend of mine who kept singing her praises. At the time, I was struggling with some imposter syndrome, burn-out, and dysfunctional dynamics on my team. I knew within the first ten minutes of speaking with Jemma that she was someone I could learn from and trust. She asked me clever questions that allowed me to see clearly where we could focus the coaching process to change my situation. Jemma's enthusiasm is infectious and her belief in me was what I needed to push past fear and self-doubt. My self-trust, communication skills and how I respond to stressful situations have improved dramatically. I often hear Jemma's voice in my head cheering me on and asking me questions that open up alternate perspectives and solutions.
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- Matthew R.
“I came to Jemma feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and really scared. I knew I wasn't happy with my job nor my marriage at the time yet I was confused about what I wanted and how to fix my situation. After consultation calls with a number of coaches I chose her because I immediately felt understood. She helped me develop practical techniques for stress management, connecting to myself, and navigating conflict with my partner. Jemma's insight and understanding of me opened my eyes to aspects of my thinking and behavior that had been holding me back and with her support I found the courage to take the initially terrifying leap towards a whole new chapter of life. ”
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- Jen H.