"The truth is your best guide to feeling alive. Yet, to be heard the truth needs a safe place to land."
courage · clarity · choice
I'm a speaker on matters of the heart, a deep connector, an explorer and synthesizer of relational truths, and a certified relationship coach who has been collaborating with individuals and couples from across the globe for over 15 years as they transform from feeling some version of frustrated, disheartened, stuck, lost, bored, fearful, alone, overwhelmed, confused, insecure, disempowered—you get the idea—to curious, inspired, confident, competent, resourced, and clear as they courageously expand towards greater fulfillment and meaningful connection. The more I witness my clients' experiences of love, loss, and living, the more I understand that when you evolve your relational design—the dynamic internal system you use to perceive, process, and relate to yourself, your world and others—you and your life transform.
Even when you have wise friends, bookshelves filled with self-help books—books you've actually read—and an eagerness to learn, it's difficult to know where to start, how to create lasting change, and what's been holding you back. But guess what? You don't have to figure it out all on your own. It's a thrill for me to partner with clients like you who are ready to embrace what's true, release what's not, and learn how to create more for themselves—you, your relationships, and your experiences will blossom as you discover what you're capable of.
I believe hope is contagious as well as a catalyst for learning and growth and that even in the difficult times, with support, we can cultivate hope. Plus, Hope is my middle name. No really, it is.
Are you and your partner consciously watering the seeds or unconsciously watering the weeds in your relationship?
Most people were not taught how to love nor what authentic love is before they started dating. It's no wonder that couples can find themselves locked in repeating patterns of conflict and/or drifting towards passive love—I know my partner loves me yet I don't actually feel loved.
When connection isn't nourished effectively by both partners, the weeds take root. The relationship stops growing and dynamics can begin to feel stagnant, transactional, and unfulfilling. It's easy to get stuck in a prolonged crisis of connection without the skills to repair and reconnect—skills beyond effective communication and conflict resolution which are key but not "the key."
When you long for a different experience of love and you want to shift from:
reactivity to receptivity and responsiveness,
quantity of time together to quality of time,
intensity to intimacy,
pleasantness & avoidance to authentic peace & approaching w/ confidence
repeated conflict & distance to repair & closeness,
unconscious control to conscious choice,
flatness to fulfillment,
confusion & fear to clarity & courage.
When you're no longer willing to lose you to keep from losing them,
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it's time to take action. It's time to learn more, to heal more, and to evolve yourself and your relationships.
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You're worth it!
Two Truths & A Myth
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Our wounds are relational.
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Our healing is relational.
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Our romantic relationships are where we heal and grow.
In Our Sessions I'll Coach You to:
Shift from unconsciously reacting and repeating the same problematic patterns to a place of clarity and making conscious choices— responding effectively with skills to navigate your emotions, nervous system, and the old stories that have been running the show.
Develop emotional courage, confidence, compassion, and self-trust. Learn practices for active listening and effective self-expression to empower you and your relationships. Approach conflict and differences as opportunities for growth.
Identify and release limiting aspects of the relational roles you were shaped to play, heal wounds and develop practices to reconnect to your inner resources, and reclaim the parts of you that you lost along the way when you became who others needed you to be.
Understand how your attachment style adaptation impacts the way you experience closeness, relationships, and conflict and how to evolve it. Develop multiple pathways for deeper connection, skills to maintain it as well as skills to repair after disconnection—expanding your relational intelligence capacities.
Identify and focus on your areas for growth with a personal plan designed to expand your skills, experiment with the practices that work for you, resolve internal conflicts, and revive your sense of worth and vibrancy.